Carol, I am so sorry. I know that burden well. Things with my mom are not good either. She is being mistreated in her memory care facility. Yesterday I visited and they had taped the call button away from her bed so she couldn't reach it. Nobody cares. I would move her, but fear putting her somewhere worse. It's hard to know what is her dementia and what is real. I know she can be demanding, but nobody should be treated that way. They are getting a fortune for her stay each month and her money is going down fast. Sending lots of love for you all. Take care of yourself too.